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We Are All Trying to Figure It Out

Figuring it out

I have been extremely busy and productive with my work and my business that I realized it was already the 18th of January! Everyone has already forgotten about their new year resolutions and have gone back to their normal lives. This was very indicative when I went to the gym on January 2nd and you couldn’t get a free machine for the life of you. Now, a few weeks later, I can enjoy a nice stretch without accidentally punching my neighbor in the face. I had a moment to reflect on this past year and past few years for that matter. I had some really tough times in so many different ways. I cried a lot. I was sad most of the time. And when I think of how I am now, I realize that I had nothing to be sad about. Of course you couldn’t tell me that then, but now I realize that it all had a reason.

I remember a time when I was younger in my high school days and I had it all figured out. I was totally comfortable with who I was. I knew I was going to be SOMEBODY! But for the past few years, especially last year, I have felt increasingly uncomfortable in my own skin. I felt like I didn’t know who I was or what my purpose was. I was changing jobs every 6 months or so and I was on a new “journey” every few months. I finally realized that it was the painful process of finding myself. I didn’t know what I was going through. No one told me it would feel like that. No one tells you that you will be confused most of the time, while putting on a facade that you’re an “independent woman”(or man) going places in life. I only learned recently that of all the young people around my age who said they were “somebody” really were just as confused as I was. We were all the same! We had the same insecurities, the same fear of failure, the same pride, the same struggles.

So I wrote this to let you know that if you are going through it, you are not alone. We are all trying to figure it out, just like you are. Whoever you are. We are just learning along the way through our mistakes, through our own research, through our mentors, our families, friends, colleagues, etc. I saw a quote yesterday and I wanted to share it because I found it so profound,

  • “Success is not built on success. It is built on failure. It is built on frustration. Sometimes it is built on catastrophe”-Sumner Redstone Chairman

I was so afraid to fail, but it is exactly what leads to success. Keep in mind that you WILL mess up. It’s ok. Your family will still be your family and your true friends will still be your true friends. That’s all you will need to know to keep going. I am now at a good place in my “figuring it out” journey. I don’t know everything but I finally see a tiny little gleam of light at the end of the tunnel. And you will too.

xoxo, Wrk It Girl!

 

Passion and Obsession

I had a revelation this past weekend. I have always loved fashion, makeup and style. I remember as a little girl I would beg my parents for fashion magazines so that I could be up to date on trends and see what designers were bringing to the table. I have been a voluntary student of anything fashion and beauty related. Not by force or pressure but because I truly had a passion and love for it.

Over the past year I have studied and done so much reading on different trends and makeup tricks and learned so much in the process. I know this may sound weird but it has become an obsession of mine. A healthy obsession. I believe if you are not obsessed over what you are doing or your craft then you are not in love with what you do. I see it as a relationship. If you are not continuously nurturing it and trying to keep things interesting it’ll get boring. Even with something you love so much, it can get boring. So you must stay up to date and always learning new ways to keep that spark and flame. This is sounding like a column about relationships but I hope this illustration helps you see my point.

I am sharing my journey with you all and I hope that it only motivates and inspires you to go for your dreams. I am big believer and advocate for chasing your dreams. It has been a tough road and it still is. I have so many challenges that I face every single day, but I must say that my obsession and passion is what’s kept my fire fueled.

Good Luck my friends and I hope to hear about what your passions are!

Xoxo, Wrk It Girl!

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xoxo, Wrk it Girl

New Year’s Resolutions 2013 and Fashion!

I have had a very interesting, fun, hectic, and family filled few weeks!

2012 was full of change and transition. I moved a total of 3 times, I grew so much personally, and I achieved many of my resolutions that I  had back in 2011. Now it’s time for a new set of resolutions….so here it goes!

  • Love myself: This doesn’t mean to be selfish or be vain, but I have always let what others think of me affect my day or my attitude towards myself or my mood. I strive to work hard to build a better self-image and to believe in myself more. Although I have come a long way with this one, it’s still on my “new year’s resolutions” list because it is a daily challenge for myself and others alike to wake up in the morning loving yourself and believing that you are a valued human being in this world.
  • Pay off debt/Save more money: This is another one that I actually did really well with in 2012 however I wasn’t able to pay off ALL debt in 2012. So this one is still on  my list! 🙂
  • Be more consistent with healthy cooking: I was really proud of myself in 2012 for staying diligent with my goal of getting fit and staying active by exercising regularly, etc. however I wasn’t as good at being focused on cooking more meals and more healthy meals at that. So this is a fun goal of mine for 2013.
  • Be more consistent in my interaction on Wrkitgirl.com!!!: I love you guys (whoever you are hehe!) and I feel like I have finally found my rhythm and my place in my life. So I am making a commitement to myself to be consistent and to interact with you all more often. Wrk It Girl is my baby and I want to treat it as such. A baby needs to be fed and nurtured and that’s exactly what I’ll do….since I don’t have kids, maybe this will be a good prep for when I do have a baby one day haha!

These were just a few of my new year’s resolutions that I wanted to share and I want to know what some of your new year’s resolutions are! So leave a comment and let me know what you want to accomplish or change or do in 2013!

I also wanted to share this look that I put together and it’s inspired by this super cold weather outside. I created this look with edge and class in mind. I would say that’s the best way to describe my personal style. I love edgy pieces such as these black booties and the oxblood purse with metal detailing and pairing them  with something dainty and classy like the faux fur collar and classic nude cardigan. I would love to see your twist on this look!

xoxo, Wrkitgirl

understated oxblood

Dorothy Perkins crewneck sweater / VILA faux fur collar coat, $40 / Witchery cropped pants, $73 / Dollhouse platform booties / Alexander Wang leather tote / RGB nail polish

“Never Give Up”

Hello everyone! I hope you’re having a wonderful Thursday so far! I went to the Fashion Houston 2012 event last night and it was an amazing experience. It definitely exceeded my expectations and blew my mind. The Fashion Houston event is a 4-day series of shows featuring amazing designers like Chloe Dao, Zac Posen, Monique Lhuillier, Hervé Léger and many more. My next post will have so many more pics and details of the event.

Right now I want to talk about how I met Yolanda Adams, who is a Gospel singer and has been very influential to me. I saw her and my breath was taken out of me. I mean I honestly realized that I wasn’t breathing for a second. I thought my eyes were deceiving me. But it really was her. I was so scared and nervous to ask her to take a picture but I knew I had to tell her how she has impacted my life. For some reason I expected her to be mean, and I think that’s what scared me the most. Rejection. She couldn’t be more opposite from mean. She was so nice and humble and she was like a breath of fresh air. She handled herself with grace and I was in love with her plaid coat with the fringed out arms. Fab. I told her that her song “never give up” really helped me through some hard times and she is an inspiration to me” and she said “I am so glad to hear that” and we took our picture. It took everything in me to not cry haha!

I went through some hardships around this time last year. I was very depressed and I didn’t know how to deal with it. I am the type of person that internalizes my emotions and I put on a face that everything is ok, when in reality I am hurting inside. I had a very “defeated” attitude and outlook on life. I felt stuck. I felt insecure. I felt like a disappointment. I felt lost.

Amidst all of the anguish I was going through, one day out of the blue while visiting my parents, my dad called me in the other room and said “pick out 2 cds and I’ll give the rest to your sister”. My sister is really into gospel music, but I personally never really listened to gospel music or never really cared to. I almost said “never mind dad, I’m good”, but something nudged me to go ahead and pick one out. I chose an Etta James and the Yolanda Adams cds. The only reason why I picked the Yolanda Adams cd was because I really liked her makeup and hair in her cover photo, haha!

Anyway, I popped it in to my cd player while in the car one day and I cried and cried just listening to the words she was singing. I listened to this song on repeat for days and weeks and it brought me to tears every time I heard it. I listened to it until I felt the strength to go on. I listened to it until I truly believed in myself again. This song really catapulted me to continue with life and make the best of. To really CHOOSE to be happy and stop dwelling on the hard times or the challenges you face. It helped me to continue to fight for my dreams no matter if no one believed in me or my vision.

I had to share with you all that meeting Yolanda was not to say “I met a celebrity” but it was really an emotional moment. In that moment, a year later, my life came to a “full circle moment” where she catapulted me to keep fighting (and through this year I must say I’ve fought hard and long)and now I am where I am today and I have met her in person and I had the opportunity to let her know how much I appreciate her sharing her gift and her passion with us.

I really hope that you all listen to her song (it can be found on youtube and it’s called “never give up”) and I hope that inspires one of you out there. Whoever you are.

Keep going for your dreams and do what you love. Do something that you’re passionate about, it can be anything. You will be an inspiration to someone or something. I am no where near where I want to be in life, but I am so proud that I have gotten this far.

It all started with my daddy giving me a cd. You never know what small moments will forever change your life.

Thank you so much for visiting! xoxo

Put a smile on to cure that Funk!

Today I woke up on the wrong side of the bed! I had amazing sleep, I felt refreshed, but I just woke up in a poopy mood. I carpool to work with my coworker every morning and I didn’t really say a peep. I was deep in thought but I just kept trying to tell myself to snap out of it!
I get to work and I start doing my normal routine (clock in, put my lunch in the fridge of the break room, check emails, then get started). I just couldn’t get my mind right.
So my coworker was going to grab some breakfast and asked if I wanted to come along. I usually don’t go but today I said “ok”. We leave and I am still silent. I let him know that I’m not in a good mood and he says “oh lordy!” haha!. So he starts talking about his experience at a food trailer (there’s a lot of those where I live) and how amazing the food is and I can feel my spirits rising. If you know me and as you’ll learn I am IN LOVE with food! Food excites me! So as he’s going along with his story I am getting more and more intrigued and asking more questions and how I want to go and try it out.
We get to our destination and the cashier asks “how are you?” and I say “I’m good, how are you?” but I FORCED myself to smile. And not just a half way fake smile, a REAL smile. Almost instantly my attitude changes, I became more talkative and I even sparked a conversation with some strangers (who were musicians with awesome fashion sense might I add).
My point of telling you about my morning is that smiling is a great medicine for a funk! If you just can’t seem to get out of it, make yourself smile and laugh even. It works!
Have you smiled today yet?!

The difference between constructive criticism and a HATER!

I have had plenty of people tell me I can’t do this or I can’t do that. The thing is, I listened to them! I have vowed to never let anyone tell me that I can’t do something I deeply desire to do or accomplish.

I must say I have had my share of failures. This was primarily due to my wanting to “prove” the nay-sayers wrong and I kept pursuing something that I really didn’t have my heart in or I knew deep down I wasn’t passionate about what I was doing. I literally continued to waste time on a nonsense venture JUST BECAUSE people around me said I couldn’t do it.

So take it from me, you should really evaluate why you are pursuing something. Is it because you genuinely love what you do, or you want to prove someone wrong?

I have had a habit of mistaking criticism for not believing in me.

 

Apparently there’s a delicate balance one needs to learn. I personally think it has a lot to do with pride and I was born with a lot of it. I am hard headed and don’t like being wrong. I go to great lengths to prove a person wrong and that I were right. I think it’s a great quality, and also a quality that could hurt me if I don’t control it.

So the point is, I have learned to take criticism and really analyze “is this person trying to help me, or are they just being a hater?”

 

In saying all that, in the end, I am glad that my entrepreneurial spirit was instilled in me as a young girl from my father, and my grandfather. Once I found my niche, and what I loved to do, I have been unstoppable. I welcome the haters. I have love for both my loves and the haters…you all keep me going. Both an amazing motivation. And it’s not about any amount of money, I have found something that has allowed me to channel my fire and my passion and focus that energy to develop something great. Even if it’s great in my eyes and no one else’s, it’s still great!

International Women’s Day 2012

Hello there my lovelies! So today, March 8, 2012, is International Women’s Day.  Today is a day that has been celebrated for over 100 years. Celebrations of this day include general appreciation, love and respect for women to a celebration for women’s economic, political and social achievement.

Today I am reflecting on the women who have had a major impact on my life. Both of my grandmothers have had a huge impact on the woman I am today. My grandmother on my father’s side has overcome great struggle raising 5 young men on her own, never complaining, always providing, humble, self-sufficient, strong, independent, and always full of love. My grandmother on my mother’s side (we call her Tita) is a fighter as well. She came to this country with all four of her kids and her husband without being able to speak English. She learned the language on her own and made a comfortable life for her family. And my own mother raised four kids (myself and my siblings) with my father.  I never knew if times were good or bad. We never wanted for anything. She is so independent, self-sufficient, intelligent, and has always put her children first. I hope to one day be half as great a woman as the ones that came the generations before me. I am so fortunate to have had these great examples of strong, independent, classy, and poised women who have so much heart and fight in them. I hope to be as strong as they are.

Today I will celebrate international women’s day by calling the women I love and telling them I love them for being them!

How will you celebrate international women’s day?

Please take a look at the following links for more information and background on this day. Enjoy!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/helene-d-gayle/measure-of-a-woman_b_1328165.html

 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/08/international-womens-day-2012-google-logo_n_1329155.html?ref=technology 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/global-development/poverty-matters/2012/mar/08/international-womens-day-2012-commitment-education

 

Good Energy

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Today I want to talk about good vibes! You are in control of  your day and how your day is going to go. If you wake up thinking that you will have a bad day or something negative will happen…more than likely something negative will happen! It’s easier said than done, I know, but you can start now! You can break the cycle and think positive and let that energy exude through your smile and your up beat attitude! It’s hard for me sometimes, especially on that time of the month, but I feel so much more energetic and happier when I at least try! I have learned that you are responsible for your own happiness and that starts with at least trying to have positive energy.