I know a young woman who is trying to make it in the entertainment industry. She wants to be an actress or tv host really badly. I’m always giving her words of advice and I try to encourage her as much as I can. I noticed that all of the photo shoots she does or the pictures she takes, she is pretty much half naked. Was this her idea of success? Was this her plan to “make it big?”. I have noticed that so many young women think that you have to show it all to be perceived as sexy or desirable or advance in life. When I was growing up, I was not allowed to wear anything revealing. I had to have my shoulders covered at all times and my shorts had to be knee length or longer. I used to hate it! I would be so mad because all the other girls in my class got to wear the “cute” clothes which consisted of short shorts, really tight shirts to emphasize the chest and loads of makeup. I thought they were so popular and I envied them because they got to shave their legs and wear makeup and have boyfriends. (Yes it’s true, I wasn’t allowed to shave my legs until I was 16 and I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup until I was out of the house at 18.) Imagine how life was for a girl going to high school with super hairy legs, wore glasses, wasn’t allowed to pluck her eyebrows and couldn’t even wear mascara. Talk about nerd alert!! With all of this being said, I wouldn’t have wanted my life to have gone any other way. I understand now what my parents were trying to do. They wanted to instill in us that we are not what we look like. We have true value to ourselves as young ladies and we should act and present ourselves as such. My parents had a major emphasis on education and succeeding intellectually; not by your body or the things you have. We grew up in a modest household, so we weren’t going to “make it” any other way than some serious hard work and education.
However, on the flip side, I do think that women should be able to express their sexuality and embrace who they are. I feel that embracing your sexuality or sassy side is so empowering and freeing. That’s what has inspired me to share this with you all. I have learned the balance of adding a little sass, but always having class. I feel the most sexy or sassy when I add an element of sexy, and not bare it all for the world to see. I love a sexy shoe (like these zip-front booties I’m wearing), or a cute crop top or a bold red lip. These subtle things always have me feeling amazing! What is your idea of sexy or sassy? I would love to hear your thoughts!