I have been extremely busy and productive with my work and my business that I realized it was already the 18th of January! Everyone has already forgotten about their new year resolutions and have gone back to their normal lives. This was very indicative when I went to the gym on January 2nd and you couldn’t get a free machine for the life of you. Now, a few weeks later, I can enjoy a nice stretch without accidentally punching my neighbor in the face. I had a moment to reflect on this past year and past few years for that matter. I had some really tough times in so many different ways. I cried a lot. I was sad most of the time. And when I think of how I am now, I realize that I had nothing to be sad about. Of course you couldn’t tell me that then, but now I realize that it all had a reason.
I remember a time when I was younger in my high school days and I had it all figured out. I was totally comfortable with who I was. I knew I was going to be SOMEBODY! But for the past few years, especially last year, I have felt increasingly uncomfortable in my own skin. I felt like I didn’t know who I was or what my purpose was. I was changing jobs every 6 months or so and I was on a new “journey” every few months. I finally realized that it was the painful process of finding myself. I didn’t know what I was going through. No one told me it would feel like that. No one tells you that you will be confused most of the time, while putting on a facade that you’re an “independent woman”(or man) going places in life. I only learned recently that of all the young people around my age who said they were “somebody” really were just as confused as I was. We were all the same! We had the same insecurities, the same fear of failure, the same pride, the same struggles.
So I wrote this to let you know that if you are going through it, you are not alone. We are all trying to figure it out, just like you are. Whoever you are. We are just learning along the way through our mistakes, through our own research, through our mentors, our families, friends, colleagues, etc. I saw a quote yesterday and I wanted to share it because I found it so profound,
- “Success is not built on success. It is built on failure. It is built on frustration. Sometimes it is built on catastrophe”-Sumner Redstone Chairman
I was so afraid to fail, but it is exactly what leads to success. Keep in mind that you WILL mess up. It’s ok. Your family will still be your family and your true friends will still be your true friends. That’s all you will need to know to keep going. I am now at a good place in my “figuring it out” journey. I don’t know everything but I finally see a tiny little gleam of light at the end of the tunnel. And you will too.
xoxo, Wrk It Girl!